Wil had a very hard morning. He would not get out of bed. Would not budge. Usually I tickle his feet. He laughs, sits up and says, “Hug Mom!”
He loves high school so even if he’s tired he is typically happy to get up and go. This morning was a throw back from the middle school years when hormones were running high and he had feelings he could not process or communicate at the time which lead to many new behaviors. But we emerged from that time; even if he has a slow start now, he can talk to me and work through it on school mornings.
I racked my brain as to the causes of his demeanor. My guess is a cold is brewing within him as I’m sick, plus he had Social Group Wed night and Music Therapy last night; he’s probably just plain tired.
As he laid in bed, he grew increasingly upset with himself for not moving, which ironically kept him in the “feeling stuck” loop. A wise special education teacher, Mrs. Hancock, shared with me that on these situations it’s about responding not compliance. I thought Matt, being a fresh person in the scenario, would help break him of this stuck loop.
I called my husband Matt at work on speaker phone. Wil shared with Matt that he was “upset.” I felt my heart jump up and cut through my stress with elation. For Wil to share his emotions in his current emotional state was a very important advance. After talking to Matt, Wil was able to unwind whatever was wound inside him and turn it around.
Wil started to get dressed but was still teary. I asked if he needed a hug. He gave me a tight one then I felt him loosen up. I knew then that he would be okay. I texted his teacher to let him know the situation and Wil may needed a calmer start to his day. I’m thankful he begins each school day in the life skills room rather than gen ed so he can go his pace to start and then gain momentum for choir, PE and art.
Our friend, Kate, had previously offered to drive Wil to school that morning, so again a fresh person always helps Wil’s demeanor and he adores Kate. When she walked in the door, she said she had his favorite songs ready to go in the car. Music to his ears (and mine)!
I was very rushed at that point — I hadn’t even brushed my teeth yet as I’d been trying to motivate and give Wil the time and space he needed for the last 30 minutes. I quickly made him his breakfast request to go — 2 turkey dogs with peppers, mustard and relish.
After he’d been in school for about 2 hours, I received a text from Jessica, whom I work with as a paraprofessional, forwarded a picture taken by Ashley who is working in his classroom. Seeing Wil smile big with his classmate buddies made me 🥹🥹🥹.
This morning was very hard, but as Mr. Rogers wisely said, “Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.” ❤️
'WIL'ingness = Willing to Embrace Extra in Life 