We may believe our thinking is correct; or it is good—that we are good people. Even those of us that call ourselves open-minded may find we have unwittingly closed off our minds when spending time with individuals with disabilities. Why is this? Because we have to see it their way first to understand. And many … Continue reading Take Another Think
A Right Turn
47 chromosomes…did something go wrong, or did something go right? There are still tire marks on the ground when I changed direction of thought and peeled off toward something going right. We are now so deep into this right-pathed scenic route that I wonder at how the question is even asked at all.
Special Needs Siblings
These two young women have stepped up to the plate more than most realize; and they do it with love and grace. That said, Katherine and Elizabeth treat Wil like any little brother — loving him, being annoyed with him, and standing up for him. Their life requires an extra level that is not easy … Continue reading Special Needs Siblings
Look Back/Move Forward
Yesterday afternoon Wil had a challenging moment. It's been awhile since he's tried to flee a situation; it was an impromptu situation with lots of moving parts. Of course, Wil's challenging moment means a challenging moment for me and those around me, as well. After all was resolved and I had calmed myself down, I … Continue reading Look Back/Move Forward
To “Be” or not to “Be”
At 53 years old I am a student. At 89 years old I will be a student. When I say goodbye to this world, I will be a student. Yesterday, I was trying to help a student who has autism. I was kind. I gave this student squeezes, I spoke calmly; soothingly. This student's aggravation … Continue reading To “Be” or not to “Be”
The Perspective of Time
Wil has grown so much in his 10th grade year, and I can’t thank Kristi Campbell, Hope Schook and Heidi Drake enough for that! For this fact, it gives me space to snicker when I read about a day like this: 10:05 Refused to work10:08 Turned it around10:25 Refused to work10:30 Turned it around1:50 Refused … Continue reading The Perspective of Time
The Cure
My son will not play in the NBA; my son will not invent a new vaccine. My son will not design a software program nor manage your finances. My son will not drive a car nor drive a recycling truck. But my son sang for nearly 4 hours on our drive up north without any … Continue reading The Cure
Something New
Wil and I were at the orthodontist’s office. He has a top set of braces; this appointment was about a bottom set to correct his underbite. “As many kids with Down syndrome have a smaller upper jaw, the underbite is common,” the orthodontist said. The commonality of an underbite in people with Down syndrome, I … Continue reading Something New
The Giggle Creator
Wil was just giggling to a tv show. Now he squished himself next to me in the Lazy-boy, as I was reading quietly, and started giggling. When I made him breakfast earlier, he danced around the kitchen, giggling. Wil’s a giggle creator. 💙😃
Discarding “Popular” Wisdom
"The first problem for all of us, men and women, is not to learn, but to unlearn. We are filled with popular wisdom of several centuries just past, and we are terrified to give it up." Gloria Steinem may have had women’s rights on her mind with this quote, but it rings very true for … Continue reading Discarding “Popular” Wisdom